Cultivate GREATNESS | Personal Development

by Pat Williams with Jim Denney

Are you looking for a mentor – someone who will build a relationship with you, someone to teach and advise you and enable you to become a wise and effective human being? Here are ten steps to finding that person:

1. Look at the People You Know
Look around at the people in your personal and professional life. Is there someone you admire? Someone you would like to emulate in some way? Someone who has the wisdom you need?

2. Consider People You’ve Never Met
Research the top individuals in the businesses, organizations and trace associations of your chosen field. Find out as much as you can about them. Identify those individuals whose values and accomplishments you most admire.

3. Select a Mentor Who is a Good Role Model
Look for someone who is not only famous or successful, but who has a reputation for character and solid principles. Look for someone you can admire and respect as well as emulate.

4. Select a Mentor Who is a Good Listener
The best mentor is one who gets to know you – your skills and strengths and weaknesses, your individual personality and your aspirations. A good mentor should not serve as a lecturer, but as a sounding board who will help you with your struggles and help you to clarify your principles and beliefs.

5. Select a Mentor Who Levels With You
A good mentor doesn’t just encourage you, but will also tell you the blunt truth when you are moving in the wrong direction. It is also a good sign if your mentor is candid and open about his or her own life. Anyone who has accomplished great things has made mistakes along the way and will share those experiences freely so that you can learn from them.

6. Look for Someone Who is Unlike You in Some Important Way
Our tendency is to gravitate toward those with whom we have a lot in common. But in seeking out a mentor, it is wise to seek out people who have strengths that we lack. For example, if you are a shy and introverted person, seek out someone who is bold and gregarious. Instead of pairing up with someone who will reinforce your weaknesses, find someone who will challenge you to acquire new strengths.

7. Be Open to Finding a Mentor in Unlikely Places
We tend to think of a mentor or teacher as someone with gray hair and a well-lined face. Not necessarily! A mentor could be anyone who has something to teach you and could be the same age or even younger than you. A mentor could be someone of lower rank and social standing than you.

8. If the Person Doesn’t Know You, Approach That Person with a Brief Letter of Introduction
You might say, “I have followed your achievements in the field of ______ and I eagerly read your book on ______. Like you, I am very concerned about the issue of _____ and I hope to make a contribution in these areas myself someday. I am looking for a mentoring relationship, and I would be grateful if you could spare thirty minutes to discuss such a possibility with me.”

9. Make Personal Contact
Don’t be shy. Ask, “Would you be willing to mentor me?” You may think you are imposing on that person, but I have found that most people who have achieved a place of accomplishment in life are eager to share their wisdom, experience and knowledge with others. When you ask someone to be your mentor, you are truly offering them high praise.

10. Remember, You Are Never too Old to be Mentored
I have reached a point where I know I have a lot of knowledge and experience to offer others – but I still have a lot to learn! That’s why, despite my age and gray hair, I still seek out people to mentor me – people like Rich DeVos!

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Pat Williams is senior vice president of the Orlando Magic and the father of nineteen children, including fourteen adopted from four foreign countries. Williams has written more than 30 books, including How to be Like Mike, How to be like Jesus and How to be Like Women of Influence.
Check out Pat’s website www.patwilliamsmotivate.com

Jim Denney has written more than 60 books, both fiction andnonfiction, including Answers to Satisfy the Soul. He and his family reside in California.